Whether you’ve been invited to a wedding for the first time or have attended several, it remains a special celebration. It’s an occasion where friends and both families come together. While every wedding is different in terms of size, components, and decor, there are certain do’s and don’ts to keep in mind. In this article, we outline six important rules:
1. Dress According to the Dress Code
Your invitation usually specifies the desired dress code. This means the couple prefers guests to dress in a certain way. To avoid causing offense, it’s wise to adhere to this dress code. If there are no specific preferences, it’s better to be overdressed. A well-fitted suit in a neutral color (such as dark blue or charcoal) is suitable for almost any wedding. You can also consider the season; for a summer wedding, opt for a lighter outfit.
2. Be On Time
There’s nothing more embarrassing than trying to sneak into the ceremony in the middle of it. Trust us; sooner or later, the couple will find out. So, make sure you know where you need to be, what time it starts, and how to get there well in advance. Check for road closures the day before and watch for traffic on the day itself. Arriving 15 minutes before the ceremony begins is considered polite. If you’re late due to unforeseen circumstances, wait for the right moment. Whatever you do, don’t disrupt the ceremony!
3. Handle Your Phone Wisely
A phone ringing during the ceremony is a disturbance that can easily be avoided. It also shows a lack of respect for the occasion. Therefore, silence your phone before the proceedings begin. If you want to take photos, ensure your flash is turned off. This allows the professional photographer to work undisturbed. Additionally, it’s impolite to capture images or videos without the couple’s permission. While taking photos or videos, be mindful not to obstruct anyone’s view.
As a guest, it’s important to be aware of the etiquette and behavior expected at this special event.
4. Respect the Ceremony
Whether you’re religious or not, for most couples, a wedding is a solemn occasion. Follow any seating instructions. Avoid making unnecessary noise by having (whispered) conversations with other guests or rustling candy wrappers. Also, show respect by standing when the couple enters and not leaving prematurely (unless there’s an emergency). These tips also apply if the ceremony is not in a church.
5. Respect the Guests
Chances are, you’ll be meeting most of the guests for the first time. Engaging in conversations about politics, religion, or other controversial topics would not be wise. Always be polite and friendly. Listen actively and show interest in your conversation partner. Feeling nervous around strangers? A smile is disarming and puts others at ease too. Unsure of what to talk about? Mention something positive about the ceremony, decorations, or food that caught your attention, and let the conversation flow naturally.
6. Giving a Speech or Toast
If you’ve been asked to give a speech, try to resist the temptation to tell embarrassing stories or make suggestive jokes about the bride or groom. Unless specifically requested by the couple, of course. But even with permission, it’s wise not to cross decency boundaries. So, avoid making your speech too raunchy. Keep your speech short and positive, wishing the couple lots of happiness and love. It goes without saying that you should prepare your speech well.
